BDSM and Sex Education for GrownUps

Upcoming Online Workshops!

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Relationship Communication Workshops

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• Use Your Words: Dirty Talk for Everyone

  Sexual language, well deployed, can deepen intimacy, heighten fantasy, and accentuate everything you love about sex! So why do so many people feel inhibited when it comes to talking dirty with their partner/s, and what can we do about it? Join Tina Horn, long-time pornographer, journalist, and podcaster, for an inclusive workshop on erotic nouns, verbs, adjectives, sentences, scenarios, and more! You’ll learn to develop the dirty dialog style that’s right for you, whether that’s exploring the deepest taboos or bringing more imagination to your romance. Tina’s classes are always inclusive of all gender identities and relationship styles.

• Queering Dirty Talk

  Dirty talk and sexual communication is challenging for all people, but queers in particular have an imperative to work on these skills. Language in relation to gender, bodies, sex acts, and identity has the potential to be triggering, empowering or re-claiming for queers and those who love them. The more we know how to communicate desires and boundaries, and know what to consider, the more fun we can have with our mouths opened AND closed!
  
  Join professional smack talker Tina Horn as we share basic tools for great dirty talk and discuss the importance of desire and boundary communication for kinky play. You will gain something from this class whether you identify as queer or not, and regardless of your gender.

• Getting Dirty Digitally

  Join Tina Horn, queer pornographer and author of Sexting: the Grown-Up’s Guide to Getting Dirty Digitally, for a deep dive into the possibilities of DIY porn-making. We’ll cover techniques for everything from Skype sex to selfie flirting to making money as an amateur porn star, as well as essential tips for protecting your privacy. Whether you’re looking to spice up your relationship with a sex tape, or build intimacy with a long-distance lover, this fun class will help you to reinvent yourself as a sexy superstar!

• DIY Porn: naked selfies to naughty sex tapes

  Nowadays, everyone has a porn-making machine in their pockets. Join Tina Horn, queer pornographer and author of Sexting: the Grown-Up's Guide to Getting Dirty Digitally, for a deep dive into the possibilities of DIY porn-making. We’ll cover techniques for everything from Skype sex to selfie flirting to making money as an amateur porn star, as well as essential tips for protecting your privacy. Whether you’re looking to spice up your relationship with a sex tape, or build intimacy with a long-distance lover, this fun class will help you to reinvent yourself as a sexy superstar!

Kink, BDSM, Fetish Play Workshops

• Why Are People Into That?!

  So much of sex ed is about the how. But Tina Horn has always been preoccupied with the Why?! Come enjoy a live lightning round version of Tina's popular podcast Why Are People Into That?! For the curious newbie to BDSM, we'll explain some popular interests. For the seasoned scenester, this class may shed some new light on everything you thought you knew about kink! No matter what your experience, you're sure to be entertained by this funny and thought-provoking class!

  Some topics we will discuss: Bondage, Spanking, Fisting, Pegging, Genitorture, role play. leather, latex, feet, boots, electricity, pubic sex...

  You'll see that fundamental human desire is not all that difficult to relate to.

  If there's a fetish you've always want explained, feel free to ask Tina ahead of time or bring your questions to class. The workshop can be customized to focus on any topic or theme.

• Knuckle Up! A Fisting Workshop

  Calling all size queens, all lovers of hands, those that love to gape and those who love to gush. The time has come to learn about the filthy art of fisting with Tina Horn, longtime educatrix and author of the new fetish book Why Are People Into That?! Let’s talk about how to fit your entire hand inside any hole, how to take a fist, and why people love to do this so damn much. This class will cover technique for tops and bottoms, including specifics for different holes, as well as positions, equipment, safety, and fantasy role play ideas. We’ll also fill you up with some cultural history about why fisting is such a significant symbol of queer and kink sexuality that anyone can enjoy. From poppers to slings, from squirting to enemas, this workshop will turn you inside out!

• Monster Smash! Fear Play, Supernatural Ethics, & Dark Fantasies

  Come celebrate goth season with a spooky-ooky exploration of our darkest fantasies! Tina Horn, dominatrix, horror writer, and fetish expert will corrupt you with her underworld of depraved pleasure. We’ll undercover the erotic appeal of many monstrous entities, from vampire glamour to rough and tumble werewolves to horny ghosts, sirens, shape-shifters, zombies, aliens, and many more. We’ll have fun with some supernatural ethics such as: would you bone your clone, and is it wrong to use time travel as a seduction technique? And yeah, we’ll talk tentacles.

  This will be a fun pop culture discussion, and we’ll also discuss the fundamentals of talking to partners about darker fantasies and how to incorporate them into kinky scenes. Tina’s classes are always sex work positive, anti-racist, and open to people of all relationship styles and gender identities.

• Overpowered and loving it! Consensual nonconsent

  Consensual nonconsent (CNC) — any kind of play or fantasy involving force and control — is one of the most taboo topics in sexuality discourse, and with good reason. The painful reality of abuse, assault, and oppression affect our lives every day. This topic itself is a seeming contradiction: how and why do we desire something we don’t want?

  In her fifteen year career as a professional dominatrix, pornographer, podcaster, sex culture reporter, and comic book writer, Tina Horn has come to believe that those paradoxes are at the center of human desire. She wants us to confront taboos head on together in order to deepen our respect for ourselves and one another, to share the arousal and to experience the satisfaction we crave. 

  This workshop will take a VERY intersectional approach. We will be discussing what it means to fantasize and/or role play about overpowering and/or being overpowered by another person while living in white supremacist cis-heteronormative ableist cultures. 

  We'll cover scene ideas, offer negotiation, safe word, and aftercare guidance, and explore the idea of BDSM as healing. 

  We will explore fear, rough, and edge play as well as emphasizing how many playful and romantic scenes can incorporate CNC elements in surprising ways. Some other topics: coercion, blackmail, inappropriateness, exploitation, overwhelm, stimulation overload, extreme catharsis, absolute presence in the moment. 

  This workshop is for anyone who has ever had a kidnapping fantasy, who has ever gotten steamy at the sight of harlequin romance novel covers, or wants to learn more ways to use erotic force, control, and pain in the bedroom. It’s for tops, bottoms, sadists, masochists, dominants, submissives, vers switches, partnered, solo, and non-monogamists of all kinds.

• Role Play

  Bad girls get punished. Good puppies get scritches. Corrupt bosses get blackmailed. These are just some of the many dynamics at play in classic erotic scenarios. So you may have enjoyed those scenes in porn or erotica, but how do you embody those characters in your own bedroom or local dungeon? Writer Tina Horn brings a theater and literature background to her passion for role plays, so get ready to get into character! Whether you want to tap into your primal nature with some animal play, explore the power dynamics of an office or domestic scenario, or let your imagination run wild with over-the-top camp, you’ll learn where to start and how to develop the hottest scenes. In this dynamic workshop, we’ll discuss dirty talk, costumes, props, and positions to create immersive scenes that are sure to keep you cumming back for more! Just as stories are central to culture, erotic narratives and archetypical dynamics are central to enjoyment of sexuality. In this class we’ll examine some of the classic sexual situations and characters in their many incarnations – including domestic discipline, master/slave, age play, animal play, and consensual non-consent. We’ll also discuss sexual iconography and symbolism. You’ll have the chance for individualized coaching on how to find the role play that’s right for your own kinky personality. We’ll also discuss common questions like: “When is a scene self-contained, and when does it become a 24/7 relationship?” and “How do you keep from giggling?!” (spoiler alert: you don’t!). Come learn how to get what you want by being someone you’re not!

• Advanced Role Play

  By popular demand, I’m teaching a brand new, next level version of my popular Role Play class! We'll go deeper on negotiation, collaboration, and aftercare, discuss the blurring of lines between scenes and 24/7 identity, and do some inspirational close readings of taboo fantasy scenarios. Supernatural ethics, authority figure dynamics, primal play, and special occasion party ideas are all in the script of this fun and dynamic workshop!

  Come learn how to get what you want by being someone you’re not! For folks who have attended my Role Play workshops, and anyone with experience in BDSM looking to deepen their skills. My classes are always queer inclusive, sex work positive, slut-centric, and anti-racist.

• Erotic Fluids

  Come get wet and messy with kinky podcaster Tina Horn as we explore playing with all kinds of body fluids. From golden showers to saliva, from milk to blood, from squirting to underarm sweating, we'll explore the taboos nature of human secretions and some inventive ways to make them even filthier.

• Animal Play

  Get in touch with your primal urges! For some, animal play might be about furry culture, elaborate costumes, or full immersion into a pet identity. For others, it may simply be about tapping into an archetype, from the sensual cat to the obedient pup. Join professional fetishist and kink podcaster Tina Horn for a workshop where we'll learn to play with our inner erotic animals. (To be clear, this is about humans role playing as animals; no actual bestiality talk will be tolerated).

• Kiss My Sass: Sensual & Kinky Ass Worship

  Rear ends are the great human equalizer: just about everybody’s got one! There’s so many great workshops on how to play with the inside of the ass, or how to enjoy a nice rough spanking. But what about those of us who love to caress a fine posterior, or bury our faces in the booty of someone we adore? Join Tina Horn, a pro-domme and sex writer who specializes in ass worship, for a class that will cover everything from smothering, to tease and denial, to massage. For folks who love butts and those who feel like their own could use more attention.

• Bottoms Up! The Art of Spanking

  Spanking fantasies are as varied as the people who enjoy them, but often stigmas keep us from safely exploring this fun, cost-free erotic activity. Some of us daydream of strict discipline, while others just enjoy any way we can get our hands on a nice ass.

  Join Tina Horn as she leads an upbeat seminar that will empower you to live out and take pride in your fantasies. Tops will empower themselves with the skills necessary to administer the most delicious spanks, and bottoms will learn how they can help facilitate the treatment they’ve always deserved.

  This class will also touch on other types of impact play such as flogging and caning, as well as basic role play and Dominant/Submissive techniques.

  Novices, old hands, tops, bottoms, couples, men, women, and queers of all identities and orientations are welcome and encouraged to attend.

• Hit Me Baby! Impact Play & Rough Handling

  Erotic impact play – everything from spanking to face slapping to tit torture – holds arousing potential for many lovers. Impact play can be a sensual tease, fantastic foreplay, a reward, a punishment, and much, much more. Let sexy switch Tina Horn be your guide to the anatomy, safety, technique, and erotic power of using physical force in the bedroom or dungeon. She’ll discuss a broad range of activities and fantasies, how to use toys like floggers, paddles, canes, and your hands, useful tactics, as well as how to talk with your partner to make sure you both get what you want. Anatomy and technique will be demonstrated on a hot demo submissive.

• Is a Threesome Right for You?

  Most of us begin our sex lives solo; if we’re lucky, we graduate to sex with one other person. So is sex with two other people at the same time — the fabled threesome — the next step in YOUR sexual evolution? Maybe you’re in a committed couple and you’re looking to find a guest star for one special occasion. Maybe you’re looking to be someone else’s unicorn. Maybe you’re in that couple looking for the perfect long-term third. Maybe you simply want to know how to incorporate the possibility of multiples into your dirty talk or roleplay life.

  In this workshop, we’ll discuss how to tell if you’re ready to open your relationship, how to go about finding the right people to welcome into your bedroom, and how to negotiate all the pleasures and complications that can arise. We’ll also have some fun discussing threesome ergonomics, and even some kinky threesome fantasies.

  Join Tina Horn —host of the Why Are People Into That?! podcast, who has seen her fair share of ménage à trois — for an upbeat, frank discussion of open relationships, group sex dynamics, and how to make yours’ and your partners’ fantasies come to healthy, mind-blowing life!

• Naughty Nurses & Good Puppies: costumes, fetish gear, & lingerie

  We’ll discuss fetish uniforms, including the appeal of leather, latex, rubber, and more. We’ll discuss finding the lingerie that’s right for you and/or your partner, including exploring the sex appeal of stockings. We’ll also take a dive into wearable fetish gear, including ball gags, nipple clamps, and chest harnesses, as well as wearable sex toys from remote-controlled panty vibes to comfy long-wear buttplugs. Come get some dress-up ideas while learning how erotic outfits can transform you into the sexy persona you’ve always wanted to be!

Anal Pleasure & Health Workshops

Politics and Culture Lectures

• Why Sex Work Decriminalization is a Feminist Issue

  In July 2015, Amnesty International called for the global decriminalization of sex work in order to support "harm reduction and the human rights principles of physical integrity and autonomy." The backlash to this statement by the world’s leading human rights NGO is merely the latest chapter in an ongoing controversy within feminist discourse.

  Based on a massively popular article originally published by Tina Horn on Refinery29, this lecture will guide students through major global feminist issues that intersect with the sex worker rights movement. From economic justice to trans freedom from violence, from employment discrimination to pop culture representations, from rape culture to HIV care, attendees will learn data and analysis about escorting, BDSM, porn, stripping, and camming beyond sensationalist headlines.

  With a decade of experience in various parts of the sex industry, and many years covering related issues in articles, books, lectures, and podcasts, Tina Horn is the perfect person to take students on a well-researched yet colloquial dive into these contentious topics. Students will hear perspectives from sex workers themselves (with an emphasis on voices from trans*, POC, and other marginalized communities), and gain broad but detailed knowledge of the complicated history and hopeful future of feminist sexual labor politics.

• The Whore Singularity

  When sexually-themed online media business owners can be indicted for prostitution, when a minor can be prosecuted for “exploiting” naked images of himself, everyone’s freedom of sexual expression is under attack. Whether you share naked pictures with your partner, post online escort ads, or masturbate on a webcam, your digital sexual imagery can and will be weaponized against you through harassment, public shaming, or by the law. As more and more people become naked on the internet (professional and amateur, consensually and non-consensually), persistent whore and slut stigma affects everyone.

  This workshop will address important subjects of digital privacy, modern intimacy, and the way everyone is affected by sex worker stigma.

  We will politicize current events such as the Rentboy and MyRedBook raids, several cases of teenagers caught sexting, the “Fappening,” and more.

  You will learn concrete risk-aware assessment tools for digital privacy, how to combat whore stigma and slut shaming in your work and personal life, and why you should (and how you can) support the decriminalization of sex work.

• Polyamory Beyond Non-Monogamy: Self Love, Friendship, Flirtation

  Platonic friendships, exes, fantasies, solo time: it’s not just sex with other people that brings up intense feelings of jealousy. How can we use the tools of non-monogamy culture to improve trust and compursion in all aspects our relationships? And what can polyamory principles teach us about getting our needs (for attention, intimacy, and abundance) met whether we’re currently sleeping with other people or not?

• The Whorearchy

  What is the Whorearchy? How can understanding it help us to combat whorephobia? This portmanteau meaning Whore-Hierarchy is a term originating from and used within the sex worker rights movement describing social stratification within the industry. In this lecture we’ll explore the intersections of identities from race to gender to class in how fantasies are marketed, pop culture representations from “trashy strippers” to “high class call girls,” and how to find yourself on the Whorearchy.