Love Not Given Lightly:
Profiles from the edge of sex
the first collection of nonfiction stories from award-winning filmmaker, journalist, and advocate Tina Horn.
In her vast experience in sexual undergrounds, Tina has befriended pro-dommes, porn stars, kinky fetishists, rent boys, and more. Instead of writing a sex worker memoir, she opted to tell the stories of the people she met along the way. Illuminating human issues of desire, gender, beauty, and ultimately friendship, the stories in this book will do no less than alter the way you think about modern sexuality in America.
LNGL named on of Reason’s Best Sex Work Books of 2015!
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“Part memoir, part expose, part journalistic study—this is Tina Horn at her best, taking us deep into her world of sex work and spankings and showing us around, making it all seem perfectly normal and glittery. But not just that—human, too, and real, in a way that makes them seem like they could be our friends, our clients, our coworkers.
GET IT FOR: The sex worker friends you know, or folks who keep their finger on the pulse of what’s happening in the sex & activism world. (They’re going to want to read this.)”
Read Rachel Kramer Bussel’s interview with Tina Horn in Dame Magazine:
“What sets Love not Given Lightly apart is the way Horn reflects on her domination-for-money past, applies a journalist’s eye and a poet’s flair for language with the very wording she uses to describe the heart of her tome: love… A keen, objective observer, Horn reports not with a message or a mission or a single life-changing realization—the hallmark of a neat, tidy memoir—but with the goal of digging beneath the sensationalism to uncover the uniqueness behind these “professional lovers.”
“Tina Horn is a compelling public speaker and ingenious educator. Her writing on BDSM and sex worker rights explores some of the most important social issues of our time. In her writing and on her podcast, she manages to make complex issues accessible without dumbing anything down. Having worked with her at several sexuality conferences, I can attest that she is as professional as she is original.”—Tristan Taormino, author of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women and Opening Up, host of Sex Out Loud on The VoiceAmerica Talk Radio Network, founder and producer of The Feminist Porn Conference
“Tina Horn transmutes experiences most people have never had into tasty brain candy and challenging, informative walks on the wild side. I’d trust this writer to take me pretty much anywhere.”—Carol Queen, PhD, author of Real Live Nude Girl and The Leather Daddy and the Femme
“Tina Horn reverently unearths the details of the lives of the sex workers she profiles, revealing fetishes, passions, kinks, and quirks from an insider perspective. She showcases the artistry inherent in their jobs, lives, and sexuality, and by doing so opens up these underground worlds to curious readers.”—Rachel Kramer Bussel, author of Sex & Cupcakes, editor of The Big Book of Orgasms
“Tina Horn is a sexual sponge. She’s the Neil deGrasse Tyson of a sexual cosmos, absorbing carnal knowledge and disseminating it to the masses with narration that leaves us marveling at the glory that is human sexuality. In Love Not Given Lightly, the portraits of sex workers are lovingly memorialized by her zestful, page-turning narration. Every person experiencing this world should be lucky enough to have their life chronicled by the mastery of Tina Horn. I hope I’m next!”—Jiz Lee, genderqueer porn performer and author of How to Come Out Like a Porn Star
“As a series of character portraits, Love Not Given Lightly couldn’t be more important. Tina’s cast of real-life characters cuts close to the frontiers of how we think about sexuality in the professional, psychological, and erotic sense. Tina brings the same crystal-clear take to the chapters that you see in her guides to BDSM and alternative sexuality for 4UMag.com. The sexually adventurous will have a hard time not liking it, even if they’re not big into bruises and golden showers like, personally.” —Caitlin Donohue, co-editor of 4UMag
“Feminist, entrepreneur, utopian, dirty girl, Tina Horn is the perfect insider guide through this highly politicized slice of the sex industry because she is also (corsets and boots notwithstanding) a teacher at heart. Whether she is explaining hair fetishists, parsing the nuances of genderqueer terminology, or sterilizing her sex toys, Horn’s insights and observations are unfailingly incisive and entertaining. Readers who expect to be aroused or unsettled by these raunchy, tender stories will not be disappointed, but they will also find themselves intellectually changed and deeply moved.” – Alice Truax